Are You Carrying Other People's Energy?

You walk into a room feeling perfectly fine. An hour later, you leave feeling heavy, irritable, or completely drained — and you have no idea why.

Or maybe you've had a conversation with someone who was stressed or upset, and long after they've moved on, you're still carrying it. Their mood. Their worry. Their heaviness.

If this sounds familiar, you're not imagining things.

I learned this the hard way when I owned my restaurant. I'd start each day energized and clear. By closing time, I felt like I'd absorbed every frustrated customer, every stressed employee, every charged interaction. I didn't have the words for it then, but I was carrying energy that wasn't mine — and it was exhausting.

The truth is, we all give off energy. And some of us are more prone to picking up what others leave behind.

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How Do You Know If You're Carrying Someone Else's Energy?

See if any of these feel familiar:

You're irritable or angry, and you can't pinpoint why. Your body feels off — unexplained aches, headaches, fatigue — even though nothing is physically wrong. You react in ways that don't feel like the real you. Happiness feels just out of reach, even when things are going well. Or there's a heaviness you can't shake — a sense of being disconnected, numb, or resentful toward yourself and others.

If you recognized yourself in any of these, take a breath.

You're not broken. You're not "too sensitive." You're simply absorbing what isn't yours — and that's something you can release.

The negative energy you're carrying acts like a locked door. It blocks the good things trying to come through. But here's the beautiful part: you have the key.

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Clearing What Isn't Yours

🍃 Write it out.

Sometimes the heaviness we carry gets tangled up in our thoughts — and we can't tell what's ours and what we've picked up from others. Writing helps untangle it.

Set a timer for 15 minutes. Write anything and everything that's weighing on you. Don't edit. Don't judge. Just let it pour out through your pen or your fingertips.

If you've ever finished journaling and thought, "I didn't even know I was holding that" — you understand the power of this. The first few minutes might feel uncomfortable, like stirring up sediment. But within an hour, most people feel lighter, clearer, more like themselves again.

For the deepest clearing, make this a daily practice.

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🍃 Cut the cords.

Have you ever ended a relationship — or even just a conversation — and felt like part of you was still tied to that person? That invisible thread is real. And it can keep draining your energy long after the interaction is over.

Past and present connections with family, friends, and lovers can linger energetically, even when the relationship has changed or ended.

Here's a simple practice I use: Think of the person you feel connected to. Visualize the cord between you. Then bless them, wish them well, and say — either aloud or silently — "I now release you in love and light."

I also do a quick version of this before sleep. I ask myself: Did I pick up any cords or attachments today? If something comes up, I bless that person and let it go. It's a small ritual, but it keeps me from carrying yesterday's energy into tomorrow.

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🍃 Soak it away.

Sea salt is one of nature's most powerful energy cleansers. It draws out what doesn't belong.

Run a hot bath with sea salt, Himalayan salt, or Epsom salts. Add a few drops of essential oil — peppermint if you need energy, lavender if you need calm, rosemary or eucalyptus for deeper cleansing.

When you step out, notice how different you feel. Most people describe it as refreshed, renewed, more settled in themselves.

If you've ever come home from a draining day and instinctively craved a bath — your body already knows what it needs.

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🍃 Return to nature.

When everything feels too heavy — when you need to remember who you are underneath all the noise — nature is waiting.

A walk in the woods, by the water, or even around your neighborhood does two things at once: the movement helps shake off stagnant energy, and the natural world reconnects you to something steady and grounding inside yourself.

Even 30 minutes can shift everything. And if you make it a habit, it becomes one of your most reliable ways to come back to center.

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🍃 Keep a gratitude list.

This one might surprise you, but gratitude is a powerful energy cleanser.

When you focus on what's good — your health, your people, your small wins — you naturally raise your vibration. It becomes harder to hold onto low, heavy energy when you're anchored in appreciation.

Write a list of what you're grateful for. Carry it with you. Pull it out when you feel yourself slipping into someone else's mood or energy.

It's a simple reset. And it works.

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A Gentle Reminder

"All that we are is a result of what we have thought."

— Buddha

The energy you carry shapes your experience. But you get to choose what stays and what goes. You get to decide what's yours — and what you're ready to release.

Which of these practices are you drawn to try first?

With love and light,

Susan E. Brown

Spiritual Mentor & Author of Infinite Possibilities

Guiding you back to your intuition, healing, and inner wisdom